What's your more?

Ever heard yourself saying Oh I wish I had this car or Oh why can’t I be so slim, I wish I had more money etc. etc. Human tendency is always craving for more than it already has and with so many options to pick from, this lust for more is ever growing. Sometimes, I feel our parents’ generation or the generation before that was much happier. Contended with their lives and available resources they had much more to gain from life. And hence their lives were less complicated.

All of us have more to desire from everything- job, health, social status, relationships, income, love and the list goes on. According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs a person in his life ascends from satisfying his physiological needs to self actualization needs. Thinking deeper, it may also mean that to satisfy a higher order need you are invariably saying I don’t want more of the lower order ones or getting more or less of that won’t have any significant impact.

Well theory per say it may sound obvious but does it actually happen that way? You would never find a person saying I don’t want more money or I don’t want good health or a better social status. Now that you are reading this, just pause for 5 minutes and ask yourself, “What’s my more?”

Feeling Puzzled? Don’t worry. When I asked this to myself, it struck; oh jeez I am not really running after wanting for more but focusing more on being better than someone else. A better spouse than my friends’, wanting a better house than my colleagues’/friends’ or a better paying job. It is not wrong to want more but this shift in mindset would give you more (Happiness) because there would always be someone who has ‘more’ than what you have. So get more for yourself, rather than more than someone or something else. And keep asking, “What’s my more?”